Bullying Will Be The New Racism
Bullying Will Be The New Racism
October 28, 2013
Every week, on Monday, I hope to have a Question of the Week. I’d like for everyone to participate in either 1.) commenting and/or 2.) answering the question on their own blog or Facebook page and linking back to me.
I’m sure by now you’ve heard of the angry parent who filed a bullying complaint on one Texas football team because they beat the snot out of them at 91 to 0 (zero). Was it ridiculous that the football team ran up the score like that? Probably. But was it bullying? I don’t think so.
There has been a lot of talk lately, about bullying. It’s all over the news and school awareness is on high alert. I’ve been hearing about raising awareness of it for a few years actually. I’m all for awareness and good causes and I am certainly against bullying but I am afraid this is going to turn into what racism has become. I’m afraid we are just going to start throwing the term around lightly and see if it sticks to whatever.
Case in point, the angry parent who filed the bullying complaint against the football team.
I am not saying there isn’t real racism and real bullying going on but you have to admit that this whole race card has gotten out of hand. People like Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson have made an awful lot of money from race mongering.
And now with the bullying awareness – will it lose its true intention – to raise awareness or to continue to raise awareness if we have people out there trying to pin the bully tag on anyone or everyone who doesn’t see things their way. If someone disagrees with someone else, does that make them a bully? This, this is what I grow concerned over – “You’re a bully because you don’t agree with me and you voiced it to my face.” Bully! Everyone calling everyone a bully and slinging the term around like a New Orleans Mardi Gra partygoer throwing out beads and candy.
Now, when I was a youngin and in school, if I thought someone was a bully, I made sure to stay clear of them and this was only my perception of someone. They didn’t necessarily beat up on anyone. Hell, they didn’t even speak out. They just looked mean to me and I would stay clear. I never knew anyone who was bullied. And how many movies have we all seen where the bully gets ganged up on and learns a lesson, never to bully again? Yeah, I never saw any of that in real life either.
I don’t know what is going on in schools these days but I have also read way too many news stories of young people taking their own life. What is going on with that? Most of them did it because they thought they were being bullied. To this I ask, “What the hell is going on?”
And then I hear that it is mostly cyber-bullying? What on earth does that mean? Does no one know how to disable Facebook and report/block a phone number? Or to speak up? And besides, what can anyone really do about cyber-bullying? If someone wants to act like a complete moron on social media, let them be. Wish them luck and carry on.
Have we scared ourselves into raising a bunch of softies. We have pampered and catered to and changed rules and have become such a Nanny state that now our children do not have any kind of coping skills. So when they come up against adversity, they do not know what to do or how to handle it. It is the end of the world for them.
In my day, if the worse thing we had to face was not getting your hair to turn out just right, like Farrah Fawcett’s feathered coiffure then it was the end of the world for us! That’s all we had to worry about back in the day.
Sure, we had the kids who thought they were bullies, or tried to be, but when we laughed at them or someone put them in their place, that was enough out of them. Nothing ever lasted. It was not something that was permanent. The bully one year may be the football star the next. Or that awkward girl may have bloomed over the summertime and will end up the Prom Queen. We were kids and we did stupid kid stuff back then. No one was permanently scarred or hurt.
We learned from stuff like being an idiot, doing something stupid, and yes, some of our friends (or strangers) making fun of us for it. But we learned.
I don’t know what has happened over the centuries that we have become the way we are today. Of course, I grew up in such a small town in southern Ohio. It was like being tucked away in the pocket of grandma’s favorite apron or something – sheltered from the harsh world.
We didn’t have the internet or cable back then – or smart phones where we get instant gratification from email and Amazon orders. So, there’s always that, maybe “that” is what happened to all of us.
I don’t know. So I ask you – the Question of the Week – what happened to us, as a country? And is bullying going to be the new race-mongering?