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Once Upon A Time…

Once Upon A Time…

There was a time when I had girlfriends. Or at least I thought I had a great group of girlfriends. Now I often wonder if they just hung around me out of pity. Why do I wonder this after all this time? Because after all this time, I no longer hear from any of them, unless it is via Facebook and that’s when I go hunt them down and look on their page to see what they’ve been up to lately.

We used to get together on a regular basis. Then I got married, they moved on with other things. I understand life gets in the way and people have their own lives to live but I do watch other women making time to get together with each other and it leaves me wondering what the hell I did wrong to be left alone.

I used to try and get everyone together from time to time but with each attempt I was met with, “Oh man, my schedule is so packed right now I just can’t squeeze one more thing in right now.” And so I just gave up. I guess it’s true that people come into your life for certain reasons or for a certain amount of time; People Come Into Your Life for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime.

Oh well, life goes on. There has to be an essay in this topic somewhere. In fact, I know there is and I will have to make time to sit down, explore this, and write. It won’t be shared on the blog though. Instead I will find somewhere to submit the essay, after I find a writing partner to help me with editing and critiquing.

Essay Topics from this:

  • Hurt Feelings (and the damage of resentments)
  • Observing Others
  • Moving On
  • Gratitude – for having the friendship while it lasted
  • Lessons Learned (to stand on my own, rely on self, rely on God instead of people, inward journey, the power of friendship, the power of women, helping others, letting go)
  • Isolation
  • Jealousy/Envy (but with a distant eye – there was a time this ate me up inside but not so much anymore)
  • Solitude
  • Am I a total bitch? Needy? Dependent? Boring?
  • Saying good-bye, internally, to some people (or writing them off, literally)
  • Not easy topics to write about and certainly not the ooey-gooey feel-good sort of writing either. But it needs to be done, for me.

    I’ll leave you with some inspirational writing quotes (again, more for me than you, LOL).

    “The role of a writer is not to say what we all can say, but what we are unable to say.” ~Anaïs Nin

    “And by the way, everything in life is writable about if you have the outgoing guts to do it, and the imagination to improvise. The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.” ~Sylvia Plath

    “The act of putting pen to paper encourages pause for thought, this in turn makes us think more deeply about life, which helps us regain our equilibrium.” ~Norbet Platt

    “There are thousands of thoughts lying within a man that he does not know till he takes up the pen and writes.” ~William Makepeace Thackeray

    “The good writing of any age has always been the product of someone’s neurosis, and we’d have a mighty dull literature if all the writers that came along were a bunch of happy chuckleheads.” ~William Styron, interview, Writers at Work, 1958 (LOL)

    And by Stephen King,

    The scariest moment is always just before you start. After that, things can only get better.

    Some people may not agree with this blog post but this is my perspective, how I see things, how I have experienced life, not theirs.

    Of course, upon writing these topics, Dr. Bob Cowser’s voice is repeatedly asking me why he should care.

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    • Russ says:

      Ah, pure genius: “Why should your reader care?” I ask that of student writing daily.

      So, here’s your answer: You’ve offered enough detail to engage your readers’ interest on a topic that is broad enough for many to connect with and inspire them to think of their own relationships.

      That’s reason enough for writing.

      Speaking of King: here a clip I show every 101 class every semester. It’s brilliant. (As is his “On Writing,” btw.)


    • Heather says:

      Great essay suggestions. I’ve had similar experiences with old friends. Some of it is the circle of life although I think we can be intentional in our friendships to not let that happen. I imagine that the same women you miss and who don’t make time for you sometimes feel the same way as you and don’t even realize how friendship is within their reach. You can also make new friends! I’ll send you a message on Facebook about meeting for coffee!

    • Tamika D. says:

      So many people want a friend, but don’t know how to be one. I am always grateful that I don’t deal with a lot of people for this very reason. Often times most people are around you for a couple of reasons, none of which are true friendship. Great read.

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