So for the past week I’ve been trying to determine my New Year’s Resolution(s).
Normally I am not one for making big huge resolutions, especially while ending one year and bringing in the New. I quit making New Year’s resolutions when I was a kid. I learned at a young age how easily I can disappoint myself.
But now that I’ve gotten older and time is running out, well, I think I have changed my mind about this whole resolution-making business.
Let’s take a look at the definition of the word “resolution” first, shall we?
From Dictionary.com the definition of “resolution” is below:
1. a formal expression of opinion or intention made, usually after voting, by a formal organization, a legislature, a club, or other group (the many voices in my head). Compare concurrent resolution, joint resolution.
2. a resolve or determination: to make a firm resolution to do something.
3. the act of resolving or determining upon an action or course of action, method, procedure, etc.
4. the mental state or quality of being resolved or resolute; firmness of purpose.
But there was one more that I particular liked…
10. reduction to a simpler form; conversion.
A conversion! Simpler form! Now THAT is what I’m talking about here people.
I’ve had many things rolling around in my head the last few days. Mostly it is a reflection of lessons learned from 2010; how I want to take what I’ve learned and move forward in the New Year.
I’ll try to break them down here but most of them will run together and probably have the same meaning.
1. Be resolved (duh). Well when I say “be resolved” I mean make a decision and stick with it. I want to make up my mind, CONFIDENTLY, about whatever then move forward with goals and take action. But first I need to MAKE UP MY MIND WHAT IT IS I WANT. Well, that’s not fair, I DO know what I want, I just can’t make an immediate living from it. Not yet. Really, I just want to quit being wishy-washy (or what I used to call it, open minded, which is really not the case here. No, I’m just plain ole wishy-washy). Heh.
2. Move on. In this, I mean stop the madness with expecting certain people to change. They are not going to change. They will always be that way, you’ve given them time and time again to prove to you that they are a person of their word. They continue to fail you. Move on.
3. Quit caring. Stop worrying about what everyone else on God’s great earth is doing, thinking, or not doing. And certainly, stop caring what others may think of YOU. Because in reality, they are more than likely NOT EVEN thinking about you. 😉 You already know this Carol so stop it. (OK, why all of a sudden I am talking to myself on the blog is beyond me.)
Um, so the first three are really kind of the same thing. Let me try a little harder….
4. Stop saying, “I don’t know.” Because you DO know. Stop lying and saying you don’t. This is a cop-out. You say this phrase a lot. It’s time to get honest and say the truth out loud and stop hiding behind, “I don’t know.” It’s weird how you have the ability to actually say those words out loud while at the same time your brain is thinking something else entirely, you know, like with an opinion of your own, an original thought, a new idea, or perhaps even an actual answer. But you never say it out loud, you just cop-out with, “I don’t know.” Just weird.
6. No more excuses, not from you or from anyone else. If someone else wants to give you an excuse then so be it, but don’t sit and stew over it or hound them about it. Refer to resolution #2 on this one. Now, for yourself, young lady, stop making excuses. You know a lot of people who are achieving their dreams that have a ton of other obligations going on in their life, and yet they are successfully moving forward. No more excuses.
7. Stop comparing yourself to others. You know the old saying, “Stop comparing your insides to everyone else’s outsides.” Good grief woman, when are you EVER GOING TO LEARN THIS ONE? I’m not even going to say anymore, you know what to do.
8. Focus. Commit. This one really sounds a lot like resolution #1 – but let’s elaborate. First of all, you may want to cut down on some of your “activities” – stop signing yourself up for so much. Let’s scale back, focus on a few and do them well. Commit to a few and see them through. You know which ones. Stop saying, “You don’t know.”
9. Keep quiet. Stop telling everyone what you want to do, what you are doing, bragging, what you are NOT doing, giving them excuses, blaming, and blah blah blah. Just keep to yourself, YOU KNOW what you want, you don’t need to tell someone else about it over and over and over again. Just do it. I know it’s difficult but perhaps you need to try to practice a little humility.
10. Be positive. OK, I have to give you a little credit on this one, you have gotten a lot better with trying to be (and stay) positive. Keep up the good work and continue on.
11. Last but not least, please stop talking to yourself on the blog.