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Shedding Like a St Bernard in the Alabama Summertime

Shedding Like a St Bernard in the Alabama Summertime

thoughtbubbleBWSo I was on Facebook the other day. Oh who am I kidding, I am on Facebook every damned day.

Anyway, I follow Elizabeth Gilbert on Facebook and she posted something yesterday that really spoke to me. I re-shared it on my page with an intro that read something like this, “Love, love, love this! I need to start shedding like a St Bernard in the Alabama summertime.”

Here is Elizabeth’s status update, from yesterday, in its entirety, that I re-shared:


I have asked this question before on this page, and god knows I will probably ask it again, because I think it’s the DEEPEST TRUTHFUL QUERY. The question is on my mind because I raised it again last night, when I was giving a talk in Fairfield, speaking to two (terrific!) women in the audience who wanted advice for how to get their own books written.

Their obstacles were many, and sincere — busy jobs, busy lives, busy minds.

There are always obstacles. Sometimes it seems there are nothing BUT obstacles.

But in the end, the question will always remain the same: “What are you willing to give up, in order to have what you really want?”

A great teacher I knew once asked me that, and it felt like the world stopped for a minute, and all the birds ceased their singing, and every car on the highway paused and the universe just looked at me and said, “Well, lady? Your answer?”

I don’t know what your answer would be, to that trenchant question, but I know what mine was. And thus I started shedding, shedding, shedding…

So tell me, dear ones — what do you need to shed? Or what have you already let go of, to take you where you always
needed to be? Share your inspiring stories here, please! Reminders of how it can be done are always GREAT.

How about you?

What are you finally ready to be?

quoteSo this got me to seriously thinking about some things in my own life. What can I shed in order to have what I really want? My first answer and thought was,

“Well Carol, first of all, define what it is you really want.”

But then another thought entered my head,

“No, do not worry about trying to figure out what it is you want, just start shedding the stuff you know you don’t want or you can live without and then just let the other things happen and fall into place, because you know they will.”

So that is precisely what I will try to do. Because if I try to figure out what it is I really want, I’ll never get started.

In the meantime, let me list some things that I think I can shed:

  • Television watching
  • Facebook/social media – I spend way too much time on social media. Way. Too. Much. Time. It has nearly become like water and oxygen to me. This is sad.
  • Doing for others – I know this sounds harsh but only I know what it truly means, to me. It does not relate to my family and close friends. I am only talking about business associates and acquaintances. In other words, stop volunteering for crap.
  • Blogging – YIKES! I know. I don’t mean to completely quit blogging. No, no, I couldn’t do that because I love that way too much. However, I can cut back and cut out some of my other blogs – which I have already been doing anyway. But perhaps I can also set up an editorial calendar to help with time management.
  • A lot of folks commenting on Elizabeth’s thread over there on Facebook are talking about shedding their financial stability and getting out of a toxic work environment. Or some have just been simply let-go, laid off, and this has propelled them into their true passion. All I can say to that is, “WOW!” I’m not ready for that yet.
  • Uh, Candy Crush! Cause damn.

That’s all I can think of for now. It’s not anything profound. For sure, the two most time consuming monsters are television and social media – stupid Facebook and Twitter – but mainly Facebook. I mean really, it is so obnoxiously a time waster.

Even right now, I find myself wondering what I would do if I didn’t have Facebook? Seriously, all I do on the weekends is sit around and check out Facebook. I don’t think I would know what to do with myself if it weren’t for Facebook. Good God, that is sad! I mean I get my house cleaning done, I am doing my baking/blogging challenge, and if I’m not gone for the weekend retrieving The Manchild from school, then I am on Facebook. That is some scary stuff right there, to realize that I am so dependent on Facebook. And I am ashamed of myself. But there it is.

So, what should I do? Maybe I should try an experiment one Saturday or Sunday and stay completely off of my laptop and smartphone – just stay completely away from Facebook and television and see what happens. I won’t plan anything else – to distract myself – I’ll just pick a day and not turn on the television and I’ll stay away from social media. This should be interesting. I am already envisioning myself just sitting on the couch, twiddling my thumbs and looking around the house until I go completely berserk and start talking to the furniture.

This will more than likely need some practice, patience, and discipline, obviously. I don’t think anything wonderful is going to happen in one day of staying off Facebook. Heh.

What about you? What would you be willing to shed?

Thanks for reading,

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